𝐖𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐬𝐞 𝐟𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞𝐝 “𝐠𝐨𝐨𝐝 𝐦𝐞𝐧” 𝐡𝐢𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠? 𝐀𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐲 𝐬𝐭𝐮𝐜𝐤 𝐮𝐩 𝐚 𝐭𝐫𝐞𝐞 𝐨𝐫 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠?
I used to wonder why I kept meeting guys that reinforced my desire to be single, while seeing all these couples where the women managed to find men who became amazing partners.
Was there a flash sale I missed where they were all taken right away??
Something I didn’t learn until my mid-30s was that in order to meet someone looking to commit, I had to commit too.
I had been going to free meetups and using free dating sites…and I got people who couldn’t be bothered to invest a whopping $30 towards finding the love of their lives. And then I wondered why I didn’t meet committed, stable, emotionally available men. Ohhh.
*Where* you look is important. It’s not the only component, but you’re a lot more likely to find a committed person when you’re on a site that requires financial commitment to join.
And I realized that even though I wanted to find love, I wasn’t all in. I wanted to keep my wallet out of the picture.
I’m a Taurus, and I can be a slow learner sometimes. But when I finally get it, I get it.
Let me tell you two things that made a big difference in meeting committed, loving, generous, financially established men:
Investing in a paid dating site
Paying my half on dates
When I invested my own resources, I finally started to attract people who did that too.
Paying my half on dates actually led to dating people who were incredibly generous. When I committed to investing in my date, it showed them that I was there to connect, not to use them for freebies. That led to more respect, generosity, and openness than I ever had before.
So, as you continue this sacred hunt, you might want to ask yourself what you’re willing to invest to get there.
What’s something you’ve invested in that was so worth it? I’m curious!