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Hunting Grounds

๐–๐ก๐ž๐ซ๐ž ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐š๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐ญ๐ก๐จ๐ฌ๐ž ๐Ÿ๐š๐›๐ฅ๐ž๐ โ€œ๐ ๐จ๐จ๐ ๐ฆ๐ž๐งโ€ ๐ก๐ข๐๐ข๐ง๐ ? ๐€๐ซ๐ž ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ฒ ๐ฌ๐ญ๐ฎ๐œ๐ค ๐ฎ๐ฉ ๐š ๐ญ๐ซ๐ž๐ž ๐จ๐ซ ๐ฌ๐จ๐ฆ๐ž๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ ?

I used to wonder why I kept meeting guys that reinforced my desire to be single, while seeing all these couples where the women managed to find men who became amazing partners. โฃ

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Was there a flash sale I missed where they were all taken right away?? โฃ

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Something I didnโ€™t learn until my mid-30s was that in order to meet someone looking to commit, I had to commit too. โฃ

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I had been going to free meetups and using free dating sitesโ€ฆand I got people who couldnโ€™t be bothered to invest a whopping $30 towards finding the love of their lives. And then I wondered why I didnโ€™t meet committed, stable, emotionally available men. Ohhh. โฃ

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*Where* you look is important. Itโ€™s not the only component, but youโ€™re a lot more likely to find a committed person when youโ€™re on a site that requires financial commitment to join. โฃ

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And I realized that even though I wanted to find love, I wasnโ€™t all in. I wanted to keep my wallet out of the picture. โฃ

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Iโ€™m a Taurus, and I can be a slow learner sometimes. But when I finally get it, I get it. โฃ

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Let me tell you two things that made a big difference in meeting committed, loving, generous, financially established men:โฃ

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Investing in a paid dating siteโฃ

Paying my half on datesโฃ

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When I invested my own resources, I finally started to attract people who did that too. โฃ

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Paying my half on dates actually led to dating people who were incredibly generous. When I committed to investing in my date, it showed them that I was there to connect, not to use them for freebies. That led to more respect, generosity, and openness than I ever had before. โฃ

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So, as you continue this sacred hunt, you might want to ask yourself what youโ€™re willing to invest to get there. โฃ

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Whatโ€™s something youโ€™ve invested in that was so worth it? Iโ€™m curious!โฃ

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