Hunting Grounds

𝐖𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐬𝐞 𝐟𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞𝐝 “𝐠𝐨𝐨𝐝 𝐦𝐞𝐧” 𝐡𝐢𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠? 𝐀𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐲 𝐬𝐭𝐮𝐜𝐤 𝐮𝐩 𝐚 𝐭𝐫𝐞𝐞 𝐨𝐫 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠?

I used to wonder why I kept meeting guys that reinforced my desire to be single, while seeing all these couples where the women managed to find men who became amazing partners. ⁣

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Was there a flash sale I missed where they were all taken right away?? ⁣

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Something I didn’t learn until my mid-30s was that in order to meet someone looking to commit, I had to commit too. ⁣

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I had been going to free meetups and using free dating sites…and I got people who couldn’t be bothered to invest a whopping $30 towards finding the love of their lives. And then I wondered why I didn’t meet committed, stable, emotionally available men. Ohhh. ⁣

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*Where* you look is important. It’s not the only component, but you’re a lot more likely to find a committed person when you’re on a site that requires financial commitment to join. ⁣

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And I realized that even though I wanted to find love, I wasn’t all in. I wanted to keep my wallet out of the picture. ⁣

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I’m a Taurus, and I can be a slow learner sometimes. But when I finally get it, I get it. ⁣

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Let me tell you two things that made a big difference in meeting committed, loving, generous, financially established men:⁣

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Investing in a paid dating site⁣

Paying my half on dates⁣

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When I invested my own resources, I finally started to attract people who did that too. ⁣

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Paying my half on dates actually led to dating people who were incredibly generous. When I committed to investing in my date, it showed them that I was there to connect, not to use them for freebies. That led to more respect, generosity, and openness than I ever had before. ⁣

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So, as you continue this sacred hunt, you might want to ask yourself what you’re willing to invest to get there. ⁣

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What’s something you’ve invested in that was so worth it? I’m curious!⁣